Reflections on Communication#
When I went back to rest at noon, I suddenly realized that I had spoken harshly in the morning.
The situation was that the tester said that there was a discrepancy in the calculation between me and Android in a certain area, and they wanted to raise a bug to me. At that time, my computer was lagging, and I was already in a bad mood. When I heard that they wanted to raise a bug to me, I immediately exploded;
Initially, when the requirements were discussed, the product didn't mention this thing at all. Then, when the tester wrote test cases, it was brought up. The product had to confirm two or three times before knowing about this thing, and then informed the development team to work on it, but the specific logic of calculation was never mentioned.
So I immediately fought back, asking the product to raise the bug, make a requirement change, and then proceed. During the morning meeting, the product said they had mentioned it before, and then we started arguing. The fact is that it was not documented in the product document, and it was not mentioned. When Android was working on it, they asked for another thing from the tester, which is why it was done so early, and they didn't inform me.
I was really furious at that time, feeling the blood rushing to my head, almost losing control.
When I lay down to rest after lunch, I thought about it and realized that I could have avoided getting angry, being sarcastic, and communicated properly. Instead, I chose a way that made everyone uncomfortable; this was partly due to habit and also a lack of proper communication skills on my part.
I have been aware of this communication issue for a long time, knowing what the right thing to do is, but every time words slip out, it becomes uncontrollable. In the end, everyone remembers that I have a bad temper, and when it comes to evaluating other things, no one is willing to help. So, I remind myself to think before speaking next time, to think if there is a better way to express myself.
When I talked to my close friend about this issue, she was surprised and said, "You usually talk to me in a good tone when we chat, and you even like to laugh. Don't be angry all the time in the future."